Sunday, December 29, 2013

On Resolutions

I'm sure this surprises exactly zero people, but I don't do resolutions. For one, the whole thing feels like the trite way of doing things you should do all the time, anyway. It's kind of like how people only talk about how thankful they are at Thanksgiving, or only go out of their way to show someone they love them on Valentine's Day.  I get that turning over  a new year makes for a convenient starting point, but why put all the pressure on yourself starting the day after you stayed up late and nearly drank yourself to oblivion? And if you don't keep to the resolutions, then what? Does that make you a failure? Weak? It seems like a lot of setting up to fail to me.

Usually when someone discusses their official New Year's Resolutions, they are full of things to do, to change, ways to cut out all badness in their lives. I do a lot of bad things in my life, and I'm not proud.  But if you told me I had to give it all up or change it all on Wednesday? Game over, man. Sometimes the selfish, unhealthy, dangerous, or lazy treats are what give us the power to spend more effort on other good things, allowing us to be more giving, healthy, dependable, or active.  I'm often curious how people have let their lives get so out of hand that every single thing has to be changed.  Isn't it okay if we stay the same sometimes? I am always up for change, but it should be more organic.  Lose weight, save money, quit smoking, start volunteering whenever you're ready to do so, not when an arbitrary date changes.  Changes made organically always seem to be more fulfilling, and usually, more successful

So rather than spend a lot of thought on what I'm going to do and change, I try to be more open minded and self-forgiving.  I'm learning to cook more, so that I can have better food, cheaper, and at home.  I'd like to stop being so sedentary.  I have plenty of opportunity between ice skating, Wii, walking Toby, or even (gasp!) the gym in my building. I should take advantage of these more often.  I'm trying to keep a more positive outlook on things, and realize that just because people make different choices than I do, neither of us are wrong.  I want to experience more of the world around me, so I'm venturing out to see places I've never been, and be more open to trying something brand new.

These things do not require a great change of my personality, or even a whole lot of effort, to be honest.  I do have some actual goals for 2014, but they involve financial stuff which is even boring to me. I would like to run a few races just to see if it's as much fun as it looks. Still, if these things do not come to pass, I'll be okay with it.  To be honest, 2013 was a pretty kick ass year, so if my life is the same for 2014, yay for me!

 I hope you all have some fun and happiness planned for 2014, and take it easy on yourself if you don't make it to January 3 with your resolutions.  You're still awesome and the world is better because you're in it!

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